Giving Advice
"Yes I can give myself advices and anwers that are pretty good. But I found it's far more hard to give yourself good advice, than give someone other good advice." - Name Withheld
Careful. I like you, but I'm gonna have to be brutally honest with you. This is something that clashes with my beliefs. We're surrounded by all this talk about leading, spreading good energy, etc. But in order to do that, you must be able to do the same for yourself first.
A business leader taught me years ago: "'Leader of one. Leader of many. If I can't lead one, I can't lead any.' Usually, that one is you." What he means is, you can't just go off and lead others if you can't even lead yourself. Likewise, how could you truly love another if you don't even love yourself? The common theme is: you can't give what you don't have.
And now here, we're learning to love ourselves. Learn exactly who we are and what we stand for. Figure out our standards (esp. in women). Stop being a zombie. Don't apologize for being yourself. By freeing yourself, you also allow the woman of your dreams to free herself, and her experience with you will be amazing. Theoretically. In simpler terms, you don't allow her to bullshit with you, which exposes her true self. You let her know it's alright to be that way with you. In her presence, she makes you feel happy. In your presence, she feels no fear.
Back on topic, of course it's harder to give yourself good advice. We are our own worst critics. But when you get good at steering yourself in the right direction (like designing a lifestyle that suits your core values), then giving others advice will come from the right frame. You're giving them credible words that aren't just passed down from others. You're giving them words that you believe in 100%.
From posts I've discussed with you before, it seems to be that belief you're struggling with. Going 100%. You know the right things to believe, but you're still trying to convince yourself of them. You're headed in the right direction. :) It's just a matter of making them concrete and setting them in stone. The only way to find out is to GO until you can confirm those beliefs as true for yourself.
Pastiche
Careful. I like you, but I'm gonna have to be brutally honest with you. This is something that clashes with my beliefs. We're surrounded by all this talk about leading, spreading good energy, etc. But in order to do that, you must be able to do the same for yourself first.
A business leader taught me years ago: "'Leader of one. Leader of many. If I can't lead one, I can't lead any.' Usually, that one is you." What he means is, you can't just go off and lead others if you can't even lead yourself. Likewise, how could you truly love another if you don't even love yourself? The common theme is: you can't give what you don't have.
And now here, we're learning to love ourselves. Learn exactly who we are and what we stand for. Figure out our standards (esp. in women). Stop being a zombie. Don't apologize for being yourself. By freeing yourself, you also allow the woman of your dreams to free herself, and her experience with you will be amazing. Theoretically. In simpler terms, you don't allow her to bullshit with you, which exposes her true self. You let her know it's alright to be that way with you. In her presence, she makes you feel happy. In your presence, she feels no fear.
Back on topic, of course it's harder to give yourself good advice. We are our own worst critics. But when you get good at steering yourself in the right direction (like designing a lifestyle that suits your core values), then giving others advice will come from the right frame. You're giving them credible words that aren't just passed down from others. You're giving them words that you believe in 100%.
From posts I've discussed with you before, it seems to be that belief you're struggling with. Going 100%. You know the right things to believe, but you're still trying to convince yourself of them. You're headed in the right direction. :) It's just a matter of making them concrete and setting them in stone. The only way to find out is to GO until you can confirm those beliefs as true for yourself.
Pastiche
This is so fuckin' true. We can look at others easily, but sometimes it can be hard to look at ourselves that way.
Posted by
Christian |
1:44 PM