New Developments
New Sensation
I get the thumping heartbeat now simply by seeing what I like (a tight, hot body, pretty face) from 100s of feet away. I was driving in my car, and I noticed a girl walking into a store. I found myself diligently checking her out, and my heart started to race a little. My "hottie radar" has improved a LOT!
New Rating Scale
To eliminate wondering of a girl is hot enough or not, I've simplified the process by asking myself: "Is she prettier than me?" :lol: If she is, go. If she's not, why bother? Simple. :D
New Habit
I work close to my local mall (and I go to school near another one). I've made it a habit to go there whenever I'm on break. If a student or more is absent, and I just want to read, I'll go to the mall and sit on a bench to do it. Funny thing is, when I get there, I'd rather walk around and check girls out. Better than reading. ;)
I need to just go for the FIRST girl I see that sparks a curiosity in me. I walked around yesterday, and the only hot girl I came across was the one leaving the mall towards the parking lot as I was going in. I saw her walking towards me from a distance and checked her out of course. GREAT legs. Pretty face (yeah, she was prettier than me :D, but I didn't apply my principle). We had to stop from both sides of the street to let a car by. Then I noticed she was checking me out, and we had locked eye contact. Did I do anything? NO.
New Excuse: "There will be other girls in there to approach."
While that may be true, I'm using this positive outlook more as an excuse to let me pass up on a girl. And then whether or not there happens to be more hotties in there, I'll continue to think for the next girl, and keep passing girls up. Not just malls, but clubs, and other places. This is the same for everywhere I go. Now that I recognize the excuse, I know what I have to do to overcome it.
I don't want to approach with Traveler or Horoscope anymore. I wanna do ILY Game! It amazes me how hard it is for me right now. I know that when I get into it, it will get easier and easier. Eventually, I will get so pissed off for letting all these opportunities go by that I will force myself to man up and do it. I have no reason to put it off.
I pitched a pact with rarebreed Sunday to tell just ONE girl that she's beautiful this week. I wasn't sure how easy or hard it would be. I knew I did it over a week ago just for shits and giggles after a Traveler Mission, but I'm making a big deal out of it now since it is the focus. It's ridiculous, really.
New Breakthrough
I managed to get it out last night when a cute girl offered to help me move my gear from my car to the stage. This was soon after she laughed at something I said to someone else earlier. I said it in a more Juggler-oriented (SOI) format: "So you're beautiful, AND you're helpful." But even with that, it was hard to get out! :angry: :rolleyes:
Funny though, it automatically sparked some wide rapport! While I was setting up, we were getting to know each other. Soon I excused myself telling her that I'd talk to her later, but I have to finish setting up. I told her I would get her info later, and she was cool with that. Unfortunately, she and her friends had to leave soon, and even tho she said they'd come back, they didn't. Had I just went for the info exchange right away, it would have worked out. Coulda been a real, rapport-based number in about 5 minutes. Live and learn.
I found out today that she's a model! AHHH!!! I had no idea. I saw her in plain clothes as a normal person, and I STILL thought she was beautiful. That's good stuff. :)
I DID end up getting a hot girl's number tho. All these other guys hit on her, but she was cool with me. So far, every time I've gone to that venue to play (even back in October before I joined the community), I've picked up a girl. Something I'd like to keep up. :)
New Bond
I've also recognized my keyboardist to be the most direct and alpha person I personally know. In fact, he's a very difficult person for most people to "deal with" because not only is he direct, he's also very aggressive in body language, tone, and action. That's something he knows he needs to work on. The mere fact that I can hang with him tells me a lot about myself. But I let him know that beyond the aggressiveness, I see that he's a very passionate person, and he really cares for the people in his life. Everything about him is very obvious and clear. No one can bullshit around him.
Going home after the gig, we talked on the phone, and I told him something like: "There was always something I learned from you... moreso than anything you've tried to verbally teach us about music. And it isn't about music. Do you know what that is? I learned more from you by observing your behavior, and the way you view the world. You're the most direct person in my life, and that makes me want to keep you in my life."
We had a great conversation that built up our brotherly bond even more. He teaches me things about being direct that are genuine without him even being aware of it. He's not from the pickup scene. He's a natural alpha. And if I'm to be naturally direct, it's good to have people like him around that aren't biased with pickup theory.
The more direct people I surround myself with, the more direct I will become.
I get the thumping heartbeat now simply by seeing what I like (a tight, hot body, pretty face) from 100s of feet away. I was driving in my car, and I noticed a girl walking into a store. I found myself diligently checking her out, and my heart started to race a little. My "hottie radar" has improved a LOT!
New Rating Scale
To eliminate wondering of a girl is hot enough or not, I've simplified the process by asking myself: "Is she prettier than me?" :lol: If she is, go. If she's not, why bother? Simple. :D
New Habit
I work close to my local mall (and I go to school near another one). I've made it a habit to go there whenever I'm on break. If a student or more is absent, and I just want to read, I'll go to the mall and sit on a bench to do it. Funny thing is, when I get there, I'd rather walk around and check girls out. Better than reading. ;)
I need to just go for the FIRST girl I see that sparks a curiosity in me. I walked around yesterday, and the only hot girl I came across was the one leaving the mall towards the parking lot as I was going in. I saw her walking towards me from a distance and checked her out of course. GREAT legs. Pretty face (yeah, she was prettier than me :D, but I didn't apply my principle). We had to stop from both sides of the street to let a car by. Then I noticed she was checking me out, and we had locked eye contact. Did I do anything? NO.
New Excuse: "There will be other girls in there to approach."
While that may be true, I'm using this positive outlook more as an excuse to let me pass up on a girl. And then whether or not there happens to be more hotties in there, I'll continue to think for the next girl, and keep passing girls up. Not just malls, but clubs, and other places. This is the same for everywhere I go. Now that I recognize the excuse, I know what I have to do to overcome it.
I don't want to approach with Traveler or Horoscope anymore. I wanna do ILY Game! It amazes me how hard it is for me right now. I know that when I get into it, it will get easier and easier. Eventually, I will get so pissed off for letting all these opportunities go by that I will force myself to man up and do it. I have no reason to put it off.
I pitched a pact with rarebreed Sunday to tell just ONE girl that she's beautiful this week. I wasn't sure how easy or hard it would be. I knew I did it over a week ago just for shits and giggles after a Traveler Mission, but I'm making a big deal out of it now since it is the focus. It's ridiculous, really.
New Breakthrough
I managed to get it out last night when a cute girl offered to help me move my gear from my car to the stage. This was soon after she laughed at something I said to someone else earlier. I said it in a more Juggler-oriented (SOI) format: "So you're beautiful, AND you're helpful." But even with that, it was hard to get out! :angry: :rolleyes:
Funny though, it automatically sparked some wide rapport! While I was setting up, we were getting to know each other. Soon I excused myself telling her that I'd talk to her later, but I have to finish setting up. I told her I would get her info later, and she was cool with that. Unfortunately, she and her friends had to leave soon, and even tho she said they'd come back, they didn't. Had I just went for the info exchange right away, it would have worked out. Coulda been a real, rapport-based number in about 5 minutes. Live and learn.
I found out today that she's a model! AHHH!!! I had no idea. I saw her in plain clothes as a normal person, and I STILL thought she was beautiful. That's good stuff. :)
I DID end up getting a hot girl's number tho. All these other guys hit on her, but she was cool with me. So far, every time I've gone to that venue to play (even back in October before I joined the community), I've picked up a girl. Something I'd like to keep up. :)
New Bond
I've also recognized my keyboardist to be the most direct and alpha person I personally know. In fact, he's a very difficult person for most people to "deal with" because not only is he direct, he's also very aggressive in body language, tone, and action. That's something he knows he needs to work on. The mere fact that I can hang with him tells me a lot about myself. But I let him know that beyond the aggressiveness, I see that he's a very passionate person, and he really cares for the people in his life. Everything about him is very obvious and clear. No one can bullshit around him.
Going home after the gig, we talked on the phone, and I told him something like: "There was always something I learned from you... moreso than anything you've tried to verbally teach us about music. And it isn't about music. Do you know what that is? I learned more from you by observing your behavior, and the way you view the world. You're the most direct person in my life, and that makes me want to keep you in my life."
We had a great conversation that built up our brotherly bond even more. He teaches me things about being direct that are genuine without him even being aware of it. He's not from the pickup scene. He's a natural alpha. And if I'm to be naturally direct, it's good to have people like him around that aren't biased with pickup theory.
The more direct people I surround myself with, the more direct I will become.
