Working the Numbers
This is something I had taken down from A&D and the BBC since it was too insightful or revealing. I believe I posted it around Sept. 16th of 2006.
I don't approach anywhere NEAR these numbers anymore. At least not consciously. For example, I met a girl last night (among others) at a music event whom I didn't really notice earlier in the night. Meeting and hanging out with her and her friends more towards the end of the night, I found myself growing fond of her, and I could intuitively read how well she was responding to me. In a situation like that, it's only natural-- even a GIVEN to exchange info and keep in touch.
It was just normal for me to go up to strangers and talk to them, and I didn't really think so much of it as me wanting get anyone's number. Just having a good time without any expectations. Speaking of which... Antonios also helped me realize something yesterday: kisses are just like numbers. They don't mean SHIT!
Anyway, here it is... my approach rate for earlier September. I continued to approach more or less 5 girls a week through the rest of October or so (not including the clumps of girls I'd "run into" at a night function). I don't know exactly what my numbers are these days. I just go out and have a good time not being afraid of people. ;P
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I just worked the numbers.
Sept. 5th-15th:
101 girls
27 amazing
10 approaches
x36 (for a yearly estimate):
3636 girls
972 amazing
360 approaches
Conclusion (estimates):
10 girls a day (avg. casual/passive plus actively looking)
25% amazing (2-3 a day)
10% approaching girls
35% approaching sexy girls
This does not factor in the fact that I see some of these girls regularly (more than once). It's simply a projection of how many opportunities pop up.
Heck, if I were to be more modest about the numbers and say I had more like 2000 opportunities a year (vs 3636), then that means I've missed about 10,000 opportunities over the past 5 years! WHAT THE FUCK!? :shock: :x :roll:
By "approaches," I don't mean asking for directions, socializing and networking for emails and contacts. I mean any approach that actually went somewhere with purpose and intent (like opening direct, romantic connection, or going for the date and number). Something substantial. Something that really helped me grow. Something that was hard to do. Something I had to defeat excuses for. In other words, REAL approaches that actually mean something to me.
According to the numbers, I'm approaching about 1 girl a day, or 30 approaches a month. I guess that's an okay place to start. I'm also going for a third of the really hot ones I come across. I don't necessarily have to do more than that-- although I definitely COULD approach more. I ought to be approaching around 100 girls a month (3-4 a day, 25 a week, both amazing and simply cute). More importantly, I just need to get better at approaching each girl. The approach numbers don't have to go up, just the quality of the interactions.
1 girl a day is PLENTY. That means definite regular practice.
If I could consistently approach just 1 girl a WEEK and fuck her... well shit. :shock:
I don't approach anywhere NEAR these numbers anymore. At least not consciously. For example, I met a girl last night (among others) at a music event whom I didn't really notice earlier in the night. Meeting and hanging out with her and her friends more towards the end of the night, I found myself growing fond of her, and I could intuitively read how well she was responding to me. In a situation like that, it's only natural-- even a GIVEN to exchange info and keep in touch.
It was just normal for me to go up to strangers and talk to them, and I didn't really think so much of it as me wanting get anyone's number. Just having a good time without any expectations. Speaking of which... Antonios also helped me realize something yesterday: kisses are just like numbers. They don't mean SHIT!
Anyway, here it is... my approach rate for earlier September. I continued to approach more or less 5 girls a week through the rest of October or so (not including the clumps of girls I'd "run into" at a night function). I don't know exactly what my numbers are these days. I just go out and have a good time not being afraid of people. ;P
-------------------------------------------------------
I just worked the numbers.
Sept. 5th-15th:
101 girls
27 amazing
10 approaches
x36 (for a yearly estimate):
3636 girls
972 amazing
360 approaches
Conclusion (estimates):
10 girls a day (avg. casual/passive plus actively looking)
25% amazing (2-3 a day)
10% approaching girls
35% approaching sexy girls
This does not factor in the fact that I see some of these girls regularly (more than once). It's simply a projection of how many opportunities pop up.
Heck, if I were to be more modest about the numbers and say I had more like 2000 opportunities a year (vs 3636), then that means I've missed about 10,000 opportunities over the past 5 years! WHAT THE FUCK!? :shock: :x :roll:
By "approaches," I don't mean asking for directions, socializing and networking for emails and contacts. I mean any approach that actually went somewhere with purpose and intent (like opening direct, romantic connection, or going for the date and number). Something substantial. Something that really helped me grow. Something that was hard to do. Something I had to defeat excuses for. In other words, REAL approaches that actually mean something to me.
According to the numbers, I'm approaching about 1 girl a day, or 30 approaches a month. I guess that's an okay place to start. I'm also going for a third of the really hot ones I come across. I don't necessarily have to do more than that-- although I definitely COULD approach more. I ought to be approaching around 100 girls a month (3-4 a day, 25 a week, both amazing and simply cute). More importantly, I just need to get better at approaching each girl. The approach numbers don't have to go up, just the quality of the interactions.
1 girl a day is PLENTY. That means definite regular practice.
If I could consistently approach just 1 girl a WEEK and fuck her... well shit. :shock:
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