Victor Malvado
Victor has been a great contributor to the Direct Method Forum. He doesn't post anymore, but his journal has some great nuggets mixing NLP and Direct.
The Direct Walkup
This is one of the best explanations I've come across that explains how to do the direct approach. It's basically Approach, Vacuum, Qualify. I don't care much for the "I know it's absurd..." part. You can say all that if you want, but it's best that you come up with what works best for you afterwards.
So far, I just approach, enjoy her eyes, and if she hasn't stuck out her hand and introduced herself to me yet, I lead and exchange intros, and then go into talk.
Absorb this and Mode One thoroughly. 17 times if you have to. Just like a commercial that you can't get out of your head. ;)
Inner Game
Victor is also a master of NLP and Inner Game. Here's a great video that accompanies the mentality of the Direct Walkup. Great stuff about interrupting emotional states... a great way to catch yourself when you're thinking too much.
Rapport
Don't go for "cheap" rapport. If you're TRYING to get rapport, you'll won't get it. My take? You don't have to "go for" it. You already have it! If you "try" to "get" this from her, this assumes that you don't already have it, and you'll lose it.
Essentially, we're saying the same things.
Check out more of his stuff!
http://www.youtube.com/profile?user=VictorMalvado
http://www.victor-malvado.com/English.html
http://pickup-consulting.com/
http://www.myspace.com/victormalvado
The Direct Walkup
This is one of the best explanations I've come across that explains how to do the direct approach. It's basically Approach, Vacuum, Qualify. I don't care much for the "I know it's absurd..." part. You can say all that if you want, but it's best that you come up with what works best for you afterwards.
So far, I just approach, enjoy her eyes, and if she hasn't stuck out her hand and introduced herself to me yet, I lead and exchange intros, and then go into talk.
Absorb this and Mode One thoroughly. 17 times if you have to. Just like a commercial that you can't get out of your head. ;)
Inner Game
Victor is also a master of NLP and Inner Game. Here's a great video that accompanies the mentality of the Direct Walkup. Great stuff about interrupting emotional states... a great way to catch yourself when you're thinking too much.
Rapport
Don't go for "cheap" rapport. If you're TRYING to get rapport, you'll won't get it. My take? You don't have to "go for" it. You already have it! If you "try" to "get" this from her, this assumes that you don't already have it, and you'll lose it.
Essentially, we're saying the same things.
Check out more of his stuff!
http://www.youtube.com/profile?user=VictorMalvado
http://www.victor-malvado.com/English.html
http://pickup-consulting.com/
http://www.myspace.com/victormalvado
