Peace of Mind
i've realized that my ultimate goal (or core value, you could say) for all this PUA business is to achieve a peace of mind. i research things and buy products according to whether my mind races about it or not. and i'm EXTREMELY picky about where i put my money. i'm the same way with girls. i used to have such ridiculously high standards that i've had to lower them a bit for me to even consider approaching more than what i'm truly looking for. these prospects may wind up as friends, or i might learn something new about the kinds of girls i'm open to... which is typically white, brunette, and petite.
i need to post something later about whether having too high standards can be a bad thing.
Learning Style
here's my approach to learning the ways of the PUA:
1.) learn everything you can.
2.) go and fuck it up! (and have fun doing it)
set your ego aside, and be willing to get your ass kicked. in reality, it's not gonna be that bad. 98% of the time, your fears don't come true. and sure, it may not be the most comfortable route, but it sure is the fastest!
for me, i'm really not concerned about going into the night scene and talking to all these girls. the kinds of girls i want will naturally show up in my lifestyle. before this community, i positioned myself so that i'm doing all the things i always wanted to do, and i'll have a peace of mind. the only area i really felt lacking was in relations with attractive women. and now that i'm on that track of eventually becoming the ladies man i want to be, i know it's only inevitable. it's like i'm learning as i go, and i'm kinda waiting it out. and whatever interactions i cross with women and people in general, i've been able to enjoy to the fullest. now it's like i'm making the most of my life from every angle, and i can't imagine where i'll be a year from now. i should add a 3rd bulletpoint to my approach list:
3.) DON'T QUIT.
if you don't get out of the game... EVER... then how can you lose? despite whatever failures may come, don't let ANYTHING knock you off track. laugh, shrug it off, and keep going. sure will obviously take longer if you do next to nothing while in the eBook and audio/video phase, but that is no reason to give up. bottom line: are you better off WITH, or WITHOUT the community? whichever answer gives you the peace of mind you're looking for wins.
also, don't listen to what most guys say on ASF and in the community. simply choose your favorite methods and use them as guides and mentors. and then don't feel obligated to do anything unless you really want to do it, and you'll have fun doing so. it's whatever it means to you. it is what you make of it. if you know that you need someone to push you into sets because you won't do it on your own, well then find a wing who'll help you out. this will put you in the right state of mind when the time comes. when it's all about YOU, your committment will shine through and come off in your body language, tonality, and overall vibe.
oh, and: 4.) attend all the events and meetings.
this includes: lair meetings, bars, clubs, coffeeshops, bookstores, shopping strips, malls, school, etc. basically anywhere you might find HBs. 95% of your success will simply depend on you SHOWING UP. that's it! just by showing up, you're better off than the other 19 lazy asses and recluses. that's you separating yourself from the crowd. don't go with the crowd. don't go with society. most of them are dumbasses.
Positioning
really, this approach is all about POSITIONING yourself for success. if you create a life on your own terms that is to your liking and all the pieces fit well, it's only natural for you to come across the kind of girls you like. everyone wants to be around people that are just like them. and if you go after you're goals and dreams, you'll find others with the same aspirations and ambitions. sure, there may be a 1 out of 20 chance that you're gonna run into that special girl, but with everything you've learned up to this point, you're gonna be READY to show her a reality she's never seen before.
Design a Life
so it is essential that you KNOW YOURSELF, and get your lifestyle down pat. organize your schedule so that you make time for all the essential things that make you feel like a complete person. time for work, hobbies, education, fun, family, friends, food etc. do all the things that give you a peace of mind. YOU design it. YOU are the architect. YOU say what goes and what doesn't when it comes to YOUR life.
Do today what others won't so you can do tomorrow what others can't. Happiness will come to those of you who work and play and can't tell the difference. Don't do anything that doesn't feel right... and don't regret anything that does.
Pastiche
i need to post something later about whether having too high standards can be a bad thing.
Learning Style
here's my approach to learning the ways of the PUA:
1.) learn everything you can.
2.) go and fuck it up! (and have fun doing it)
set your ego aside, and be willing to get your ass kicked. in reality, it's not gonna be that bad. 98% of the time, your fears don't come true. and sure, it may not be the most comfortable route, but it sure is the fastest!
for me, i'm really not concerned about going into the night scene and talking to all these girls. the kinds of girls i want will naturally show up in my lifestyle. before this community, i positioned myself so that i'm doing all the things i always wanted to do, and i'll have a peace of mind. the only area i really felt lacking was in relations with attractive women. and now that i'm on that track of eventually becoming the ladies man i want to be, i know it's only inevitable. it's like i'm learning as i go, and i'm kinda waiting it out. and whatever interactions i cross with women and people in general, i've been able to enjoy to the fullest. now it's like i'm making the most of my life from every angle, and i can't imagine where i'll be a year from now. i should add a 3rd bulletpoint to my approach list:
3.) DON'T QUIT.
if you don't get out of the game... EVER... then how can you lose? despite whatever failures may come, don't let ANYTHING knock you off track. laugh, shrug it off, and keep going. sure will obviously take longer if you do next to nothing while in the eBook and audio/video phase, but that is no reason to give up. bottom line: are you better off WITH, or WITHOUT the community? whichever answer gives you the peace of mind you're looking for wins.
also, don't listen to what most guys say on ASF and in the community. simply choose your favorite methods and use them as guides and mentors. and then don't feel obligated to do anything unless you really want to do it, and you'll have fun doing so. it's whatever it means to you. it is what you make of it. if you know that you need someone to push you into sets because you won't do it on your own, well then find a wing who'll help you out. this will put you in the right state of mind when the time comes. when it's all about YOU, your committment will shine through and come off in your body language, tonality, and overall vibe.
oh, and: 4.) attend all the events and meetings.
this includes: lair meetings, bars, clubs, coffeeshops, bookstores, shopping strips, malls, school, etc. basically anywhere you might find HBs. 95% of your success will simply depend on you SHOWING UP. that's it! just by showing up, you're better off than the other 19 lazy asses and recluses. that's you separating yourself from the crowd. don't go with the crowd. don't go with society. most of them are dumbasses.
Positioning
really, this approach is all about POSITIONING yourself for success. if you create a life on your own terms that is to your liking and all the pieces fit well, it's only natural for you to come across the kind of girls you like. everyone wants to be around people that are just like them. and if you go after you're goals and dreams, you'll find others with the same aspirations and ambitions. sure, there may be a 1 out of 20 chance that you're gonna run into that special girl, but with everything you've learned up to this point, you're gonna be READY to show her a reality she's never seen before.
Design a Life
so it is essential that you KNOW YOURSELF, and get your lifestyle down pat. organize your schedule so that you make time for all the essential things that make you feel like a complete person. time for work, hobbies, education, fun, family, friends, food etc. do all the things that give you a peace of mind. YOU design it. YOU are the architect. YOU say what goes and what doesn't when it comes to YOUR life.
Do today what others won't so you can do tomorrow what others can't. Happiness will come to those of you who work and play and can't tell the difference. Don't do anything that doesn't feel right... and don't regret anything that does.
Pastiche
