Pastiche Mentality

Forums Are CRAP!

2007-06-15T08:26:00.001-05:00

I recently had a chat with Ranko Magami of Attract & Date. My mentality has grown so much from his philosophy and the followers he's made an impact on... OBVIOUSLY! Here's what he had to say about forums.

me: now jnz from the old badboy cafe is having me take a break from all t he forums. i'm finding it hard to do his mission of not logging in for 3 weeks and simply admiring women
i've had this stuff too much on the brain
and i wanna stop reading so much
Ranko: forums are CRAP
:)
me: sheesh yeah...
i'm feeling more in tune with reality these days
Ranko: look
forum is against a&d principles
it motivates people to type
me: hmmm...
Ranko: instead of motivating people to DO
me: yeah i can see that
Ranko: forum has a postive part
but negative is bigger

Sure, forums can be nice. Very good for starting a journal, holding yourself accountable, getting advice, and teaching/exercising new beliefs. But the ultimate form of accomplishment is going out there and DOING IT. That's where your true assertiveness and courageousness will come from.

You have no business being on a forum without experiences to share that others can work with and critique. That's the only reason to be on there. If you're not doing shit, don't post! Put in the work first so that others can work with you. They'll do their 50%, but first you needa come up with yours.

The Five Levels of Seducers

2007-06-15T08:25:00.001-05:00

From Day 1 of Louis & Copeland's Mastery Program.
http://howtosucceedwithwomen.com/learn/01/index.html

Where do you fall under? BE HONEST with yourself.

The Five Levels of Seducers

Day 1 of the Mastery Program teaches you about the five levels of seducers and about how to use the program most effectively.

Level 1: The "Hoper."

This man does nothing, and lives in hope that someday he'll meet a woman who will want him. He's been so demoralized by his interaction with women that he can do nothing but wait helplessly. Most of the time, this man ends up alone.

Level 2: The "Occasional Tryer."

This man tries something to meet women every few weeks or months, but gets easily demoralized and gives up, only to try again a few weeks or a few months later. Given infinite time, this approach would work. Given one lifetime, it's totally relying on luck, and the odds are against you.

Level 3a: The "Studier."

This man studies seduction, reads all the books, and perhaps argues about it on-line, or with dating coaches, but he never is actually able to get himself to take action. His need to get it right, and to have his interactions with women work perfectly the first time he tries them, leads him to continuously study to perfect his technique while never taking action or risking rejection or failure with a real-world woman. His need to study until he can do it "perfectly" stops this man in his tracks.

Level 3b: The "Quick Fixer."

This man is looking for a quick fix to his dating problems. He's taken in by anything that offers him irresistible attraction to women with no real work involved. He empties his wallet on pheromone-scented cologne, subliminal seduction tapes, or techniques which promise to teach him how to bamboozle women and make them into sex slaves in five minutes or less. He often lives in some past glory of the time his quick-fix approach to seduction actually worked. He keeps on the lookout for the next quick-fix that will at last make him effortlessly irresistible to the women of his dreams.

The Level 3 seducer also sees success and failure in a very black-and-white way: either he got sex, tonight, or he was a total failure. He's unable to celebrate the successes he has which move him on his way to becoming a successful seducer; he's not willing to feel good about moving a seduction forward in small steps. He's not able to feel good about his "failures," or to receive the learning that he could get from seductions that don't end in sex. His need to find a quick fix leaves him unwilling to do the long-term work it takes to become a successful seducer.

Level 4: The Man who Works the Fundamentals.

The Level 4 seducer understands something that levels 1 through 3 don't: He understands that the "war" in dating is not with women, with bad luck, or with the world. He understands that the "war" is in his head, with himself.

This means that the Level 4 Seducer understands that the world doesn't need to change. If he wants his world to be different, he needs to change. He understands that, when it comes to dating, there is no "quick fix," and that studying until you get it "right" before talking to women will always leave him in the cold, alone.

The Level 4 Seducer understands that successfully seducing women is like any other long- term project. He understands that, at first, he will have to put a lot of energy into it, and settle for small results until he gets better at it. He knows that at the beginning of learning any new skill there is a lot of work, and that the returns at first are small. He understands that returns get larger only as his skill level increases, and understands that will only happen with practice.

The Level 4 Seducer understands the Fundamentals of seduction, and practices the fundamentals on a daily basis. He knows that only by mastering the fundamentals can he become a more effortless and effective seducer.

He's willing to do the work to get the results. His motto might be, "I understand that if my world is to change, I must change. Just tell me what the work is to do, and I'll do it." He does the work, takes responsibility for all of it, doesn't expect women to generate anything, and gets the results.

Level 5: The "Man's Man."

The Level 5 Seducer has integrated the fundamentals of seduction into his life so thoroughly that he no longer has to think about them: they are part of who he is as a man, and he has the relationships he wants with women, and the sex life he wants.

The Level 5 Seducer creates the life he wants on every level, either by generalizing the fundamentals of seduction to other areas of his life, or by discovering other fundamentals that he can master to give him the results he's after. The Level 5 makes his life work for him, and lives life on his own terms. The Level 5 Seducer has a life and an affect that makes women want to be around him. His life generates many opportunities to interact with women, and he's so good at seducing that women actually pursue him.

You cannot be a Level 5 Seducer without mastering being a Level 4 Seducer First! If you think you can be a Level 5 without mastering the fundamentals as a Level 4, you are actually a Level 3, looking for a quick fix.

The Harsh Realities

2007-06-15T07:51:00.000-05:00

Taken from Louis & Copeland's Mastery Program.

This is by far the most COMPLETE dating system out there that I've come across. Going through the program, I realized how simple and effectively it was delivered. Now, the mere fact that I've read a ton means I didn't really learn much of anything new from it... but it DID help me pinpoint a few things I'd been overlooking that I'd realized I've been a dumbass about.

Great production and presentation. All of Louis & Copeland's products are top-notch. I even got a good kick in the butt by their "Nice Guy Syndrome" program. I realized several months ago that my flakiness and pushing women away coz I didn't wanna hurt them was inadvertently hurting them anyway! So it was just me being stupid. Instead of being a "Hard to Get" guy, I've been "Impossible to Get." Like my good buddy Khiem (ITotem) keeps telling me, "MAKE YOURSELF ATTAINABLE!"

These guys have managed to stay so well out of all the community dogma that people haven't really ever heard of them. Their simplicity and attachment to the fundamental truths is what makes them direct to me.

This is all that any program out there is (or should be) about:

The three prongs to the Mastery Program

1. Learning to get lots of women in front of you, so you have a lot of women to work with.
2. Learning the technology of talking to women, so you know what to say and what to do.
3. Getting past the problems and trouble that will inevitably crop up, both in you and in the world around you.

http://howtosucceedwithwomen.com/learn/01/index.html

VERY similar to what I've learned from comecuca about simply being comfortable approaching and then being comfortable being with women.

And now, the Harsh Realities from Day 2 of The Mastery Program.

Frustration

* Frustration will try to stop you.
* When you deal with women there will be frustration, and you must learn to handle it.
* Learn to handle unfairness and frustration.
* If you are used to figuring it all out and having things instantly work, you have a problem, because that won't work with women, and will drive them away. You must get used to frustration or you'll never get women.
* If you are used to throwing a tantrum when things are frustrating and having people "hop to," you'll have to let that go, because it won't work with women.

Perfectionism

* Along with frustration, perfectionism will get in the way of getting women.
* Perfectionism will stop you from taking action. If everything has to be perfect before you will take action to pursue women, you will never pursue women, or do it so slowly as to be essentially ineffective.
* You must take the approach of "ready, fire, aim." Do the homework, take action, and learn from your mistakes.

The "Problem"

Every guy has a problem, and he thinks his problem is the worst in the world. You'll think your problem is special, and knocks you out of being able to pursue women. Thinking this is normal.

Possible problems:

* You're too old
* You're divorced
* You have kids
* You live in New York City
* You live in a small town
* You want kinky sex

...all these problems are normal. The program will help you deal with them.

The Numbers Game

Dating is frustrating because, statistically, the next thing you do with a woman will probably fail. That's why you have to have a lot of different approaches and try a lot of stuff. You need to be like Han Solo: "Never tell me the odds!" The odds stop mattering when you have enough women in your system. If you keep your numbers high enough, odds don't matter. That's the purpose of prong one of the program, "Learning to get lots of women in front of you, so you have a lot of women to work with."

Phases

Don't be surprised when your dating goes through phases, or waves. For instance you may go through a phase of women never calling back, then a phase of women calling a lot, a phase of being rejected by everyone, a phase of having success with lots of women in a row, every women you meet being blonde, or a teacher, and so on. The good news is, phases can work in your favor; sometimes you'll be on a wave of great successes that you can ride. The point is, you shouldn't be surprised that dating comes in phases, or waves.

http://howtosucceedwithwomen.com/learn/02/index.html

I will be updating my links soon to accommodate for these guys and the reduction of material that I currently stick to. Less reading. More DOING!

Thursday, October 19th: She Lost Her Breath

2007-04-09T07:20:00.000-05:00

FLASHBACK
I never wrote about this before coz I was getting too detailed about it and got sick of it. But I posted it elsewhere as advice and decided it was good enough for an FR. :) This was the day before I took a month's leave from my journal here: http://direct-method.net/invisionboard/index.php?s=&showtopic=1423&view=findpost&p=10522

Jan 18 2007, 10:13 AM
One of my absofuckinglutely favorite, FAVORITE experiences approaching direct was walking down a hallway at school and catching the eye of one of the hottest girls in the school. She was studying and had earphones on. This was in a hallway with some traffic and other excusers studying. (This was exactly one week after the near-death car accident I had in October.)

I kept going on and around the corner... and then I stopped myself. "Whaaat? No waaay. OMG... you're really gonna do it, huh? You're really gonna go over there and approach her. Holy sh*t." I turned around and went back around the corner, went straight up to her, and stood there. THAT'S IT! I just stood there to get her attention. She noticed me, looked up curiously and took off her ear phones.

Her: :huh: Yes?
Me (dead-serious, intently): You... are absolutely... BEAUTIFUL... I had to come MEET you.

She was absolutely SHOCKED. Like she lost her breath and got the wind knocked out of her! She smiled, presented her hand, and introduced herself. I sat with her, and we had a really interesting conversation, which stalled at first. Then she told me she had boyfriend (which at that point, I was getting ready to leave), and then she said, "It's okay. I'll still give you my number."

:blink: :blink: :blink:

Later her body language perked up and she backed away from her laptop. Now her shoulders/body were facing me, and she folded her legs up in her seat. The interaction concluded with difficulty. At this point it was hard to stop talking, but we managed to end it coz I was on a time crunch and had to go pick my mom up from work. Still, that was probably the most incredible reaction and turn around I've ever had with this approach.

Needless to say, we still talk. And every time we interact, we tend to be bubbly and dork around. :D

Mode One Structure and Radical Honesty

2007-04-09T05:22:00.000-05:00

This is hands down the most extreme case of meeting women out there, and I don't recommend it for everyone. It's not for the faint of heart. Fuck, I'M not this extreme. However, you could try... whatever happens, you'd gain massive amounts of confidence. Props for having brass balls and being courageous. Approaching as direct and honest as possible makes all other approaches seem easy. You can RELAX! It's the fastest learning tool and fear destroyer.

Actually... I DID behave like such with a couple women on the phone. That's probably why I don't have phone anxiety anymore. And I flirt like a mofo. ;D I wonder what would happen should I do this once or twice in my lifetime in person...

Structure
Here's the hidden article from the "Mode One Backstory" I posted earlier.
http://modeone.net/archives/TDTM1_SeductionSceneScript.html

In place of the first scripted bulk of the document, I decided to include part of the scene that was mentioned. It makes much more sense than reading the script.

Scene from Talk Dirty to Me
Now what's funny about this scene is, when I first saw it, I didn't think a guy could pull this off in real-life. Neither did my brother, and many of my close male friends. They were like, "That stuff only happens in the movies ..."

Not true. Soon, I began imitating the behavior of "Jack." Not so much his exact words, but more so his attitude, his body language, and his overall confident demeanor. Sure enough, I soon started having my own seduction experiences that were very close in nature to Jack's in this movie.

There was almost a "pattern" to it:

1) I would approach a woman...
2) I'd tell her my [sexual] interests in a self-assured, provocatively straightforward manner
3) More often than not, the woman harshly criticizes me for being "too forward," "crass," or something like that
4) Similar to Jack in the movie, I remain cool, calm, and collected in response to her criticisms
5) Eventually, I end up seducing that woman ... either that day, or a few days later.

::cocky smirk & a wink::

Alan, author of "Mode One: Let The Women Know What You're REALLY Thinking"

Honesty
Here's more of "Jack" displaying Radical Honesty... which, btw, is another book I should really check out. By Brad Blanton: http://www.radicalhonesty.com/ This one's a bit more romantic and less vulgar... and then vulgar again! ;P A bit cheezy, but then again, pretty intense. You can just feel the tension.

No one's ever really honest anymore! And that's what sets people like you and me apart from the pack. David X calls "Honesty" your greatest weapon. It's what's between your ears. One of the things he says is how... to be a man, you've gotta be able to look someone in the eyes and tell'em the truth. Another great saying: the more you tell the truth, the less you have to remember. It's much easier to free flow when you're not makin' shit up!

The basis of David X's teachings is Honesty, Trust, and Respect. Mode One and David X are two perspectives of the exact same thing: fuck what anyone else thinks, and be honest to yourself. Or in other words: know what you want, and don't be afraid to go after it. That's what a REAL man does. It's not just about women. It's an attitude for life, your health and well-being. Peace of mind. Come from the heart!

(And/or your crotch! ;P)

Zan

2007-04-08T20:21:00.000-05:00

Men lack real masculinity. Men are afraid of being men. The Equality Movement has done a lot of great things... but we didn't get it! Instead of "equality," we got "sameness." Men have become more like women. Women have become more like men.

The Seduction Community exists today due to our lack of real role models. Real father figures. Male role models. Men who've grown up with badass fathers and brothers needn't even look at what we have. They're normal and natural.

I've been fortunate to have an awesome brother, and to have associated myself with business leaders, the strongest masculine minds possible, and local doers and go-getters. :) I'm also fortunate to have had a horrible father who obviously loves me but doesn't know how to be a good dad, for without his influence (or lack thereof), I wouldn't know what NOT to do. I'm gonna be the best dad and husband ever. :D

http://www.enlightenedseduction.com/

Wayne Elise aka "Juggler"

2007-04-07T07:24:00.000-05:00

Be an airhead! Train yourself NOT to think. Just say SOMETHING.

Statements of Intent. "You're sexy."

Answering questions. Facts are bad!

http://www.youtube.com/charismaarts
http://charismaarts.com/
http://www.setbb.com/charisma/

Niels Hoven

2007-04-07T07:09:00.000-05:00

I actually enjoyed this video. Make her smile. Hang out. Go for lunch. Bada bing! :D

http://nielshoven.com/

Victor Malvado

2007-04-07T06:14:00.000-05:00

Victor has been a great contributor to the Direct Method Forum. He doesn't post anymore, but his journal has some great nuggets mixing NLP and Direct.

The Direct Walkup
This is one of the best explanations I've come across that explains how to do the direct approach. It's basically Approach, Vacuum, Qualify. I don't care much for the "I know it's absurd..." part. You can say all that if you want, but it's best that you come up with what works best for you afterwards.

So far, I just approach, enjoy her eyes, and if she hasn't stuck out her hand and introduced herself to me yet, I lead and exchange intros, and then go into talk.

Absorb this and Mode One thoroughly. 17 times if you have to. Just like a commercial that you can't get out of your head. ;)

Inner Game
Victor is also a master of NLP and Inner Game. Here's a great video that accompanies the mentality of the Direct Walkup. Great stuff about interrupting emotional states... a great way to catch yourself when you're thinking too much.

Rapport
Don't go for "cheap" rapport. If you're TRYING to get rapport, you'll won't get it. My take? You don't have to "go for" it. You already have it! If you "try" to "get" this from her, this assumes that you don't already have it, and you'll lose it.

Essentially, we're saying the same things.

Check out more of his stuff!
http://www.youtube.com/profile?user=VictorMalvado
http://www.victor-malvado.com/English.html
http://pickup-consulting.com/
http://www.myspace.com/victormalvado

Alan Roger Currie

2007-04-07T05:56:00.000-05:00

This is it. This is direct. This is Mode One. The real-life "Jack."
http://www.geocities.com/modeone2k1/M1-Backstory.html?20077

For more about Mode One, please visit Alan Roger Currie's blog.
And buy his book. It's only $15!!!
http://modeone.blogspot.com/
http://www.modeone.net/

Here's his interview with the McClendon Report. (20 minutes)

Working the Numbers

2007-03-03T22:25:00.000-06:00

This is something I had taken down from A&D and the BBC since it was too insightful or revealing. I believe I posted it around Sept. 16th of 2006.

I don't approach anywhere NEAR these numbers anymore. At least not consciously. For example, I met a girl last night (among others) at a music event whom I didn't really notice earlier in the night. Meeting and hanging out with her and her friends more towards the end of the night, I found myself growing fond of her, and I could intuitively read how well she was responding to me. In a situation like that, it's only natural-- even a GIVEN to exchange info and keep in touch.

It was just normal for me to go up to strangers and talk to them, and I didn't really think so much of it as me wanting get anyone's number. Just having a good time without any expectations. Speaking of which... Antonios also helped me realize something yesterday: kisses are just like numbers. They don't mean SHIT!

Anyway, here it is... my approach rate for earlier September. I continued to approach more or less 5 girls a week through the rest of October or so (not including the clumps of girls I'd "run into" at a night function). I don't know exactly what my numbers are these days. I just go out and have a good time not being afraid of people. ;P

-------------------------------------------------------

I just worked the numbers.

Sept. 5th-15th:
101 girls
27 amazing
10 approaches

x36 (for a yearly estimate):
3636 girls
972 amazing
360 approaches

Conclusion (estimates):
10 girls a day (avg. casual/passive plus actively looking)
25% amazing (2-3 a day)
10% approaching girls
35% approaching sexy girls

This does not factor in the fact that I see some of these girls regularly (more than once). It's simply a projection of how many opportunities pop up.

Heck, if I were to be more modest about the numbers and say I had more like 2000 opportunities a year (vs 3636), then that means I've missed about 10,000 opportunities over the past 5 years! WHAT THE FUCK!? :shock: :x :roll:

By "approaches," I don't mean asking for directions, socializing and networking for emails and contacts. I mean any approach that actually went somewhere with purpose and intent (like opening direct, romantic connection, or going for the date and number). Something substantial. Something that really helped me grow. Something that was hard to do. Something I had to defeat excuses for. In other words, REAL approaches that actually mean something to me.

According to the numbers, I'm approaching about 1 girl a day, or 30 approaches a month. I guess that's an okay place to start. I'm also going for a third of the really hot ones I come across. I don't necessarily have to do more than that-- although I definitely COULD approach more. I ought to be approaching around 100 girls a month (3-4 a day, 25 a week, both amazing and simply cute). More importantly, I just need to get better at approaching each girl. The approach numbers don't have to go up, just the quality of the interactions.

1 girl a day is PLENTY. That means definite regular practice.

If I could consistently approach just 1 girl a WEEK and fuck her... well shit. :shock:

Motivators

2007-03-03T22:21:00.000-06:00

What do you want to do?
DO you REALLY want to ___?
Are you afraid to ___?

Let's go see if she's really THAT hot.

Make a decision and stick to it.

ChrisIsHere's Blog

2007-02-20T04:27:00.000-06:00

This is one of my best buddies' blogs. He and I have been on a very similar path over the past year. He's the DIRECT approach machine to learn from! Read'em an'weep boys.

:D

http://strawberry-letter-23.blogspot.com

The Four Principles of Sexuality by Dan Rose

2007-02-19T20:58:00.000-06:00

This is Spirit Fingers of theApproach and the Sex Revolution Blog with a 10-minute preview of his Sex Revolution Handbook.

Logistics by Badboy

2007-02-14T01:05:00.000-06:00

Excerpt from a Badboy Lifestyle newsletter:

"When you enter a new club for very first time, the first thing you need to do is take 5 minutes to survey the place. Pay attention to logistics. Get to know your environment well. Know where the most girls are gathered. Know where the music is lowest and you can hear. Know which bar serves drinks the quickest. Know a dark corner where you can isolate a girl for a kiss.

Those 5 minutes will save you a lot of time, and you will know exactly where to go with a girl once you are in a set. You always need to know where to move her to achieve specific things."

Resources

2007-02-12T05:18:00.000-06:00

So here are, by far, the best resources I've come across:

Forums (Best for Field Report Analysis. The #1 Way to Learn)
http://badboycafe.com
http://direct-method.net/invisionboard
http://www.setbb.com/charisma

Media (Best for Attitude, Behavior, and Tonality)
http://charismaarts.com
http://playersupreme.libsyn.com
http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=843449346190665801&q=alan+roger+currie

Blogs (Theory)
http://socialhitchhiker.blogspot.com
http://sexrevolutionblog.com
http://mybirthdaypony.blogspot.com
http://kissntale.wordpress.com

My new system is Direct/VAC. It used to be Direct/JM/SS. Not really a huge change, but I'd rather reduce and simplify my schools of thought. My structure has also slightly evolved from Approach, Move, Escalate to Approach, Logistics, Escalate.

And oh yeah... bartenders are sweet too. ;)

Changes

2007-02-05T04:47:00.000-06:00

There are some changes that need to be made to my defunct blog here.

Downsizing on links and methods. I'm WAY more direct now. I've learned a ton from the schools of Charisma Arts, theApproach, and Player Supreme. My PU101 influence is still there, I'm just not as high-energy anymore. No need. My behavior has changed DRAMATICALLY. I didn't know jack shit back in September. I think strip club waitresses and dancers are really sweet. Go-go dancers are really sweet. Pretty much, people are a lot more down-to-earth than I would have ever expected. I'm hella more connected to some of the most knowledgeable and experienced guys in the industry.

There really is no point to me having a blog as I post too damn much on the forums already, I already have substantial/extensive journals setup on there, and I oughtta get away from there and the internet altogether. But hey, I started this place. Maybe it'll be of some better use someday soon.

Giving Advice

2006-09-08T06:34:00.000-05:00

"Yes I can give myself advices and anwers that are pretty good. But I found it's far more hard to give yourself good advice, than give someone other good advice." - Name Withheld

Careful. I like you, but I'm gonna have to be brutally honest with you. This is something that clashes with my beliefs. We're surrounded by all this talk about leading, spreading good energy, etc. But in order to do that, you must be able to do the same for yourself first.

A business leader taught me years ago: "'Leader of one. Leader of many. If I can't lead one, I can't lead any.' Usually, that one is you." What he means is, you can't just go off and lead others if you can't even lead yourself. Likewise, how could you truly love another if you don't even love yourself? The common theme is: you can't give what you don't have.

And now here, we're learning to love ourselves. Learn exactly who we are and what we stand for. Figure out our standards (esp. in women). Stop being a zombie. Don't apologize for being yourself. By freeing yourself, you also allow the woman of your dreams to free herself, and her experience with you will be amazing. Theoretically. In simpler terms, you don't allow her to bullshit with you, which exposes her true self. You let her know it's alright to be that way with you. In her presence, she makes you feel happy. In your presence, she feels no fear.

Back on topic, of course it's harder to give yourself good advice. We are our own worst critics. But when you get good at steering yourself in the right direction (like designing a lifestyle that suits your core values), then giving others advice will come from the right frame. You're giving them credible words that aren't just passed down from others. You're giving them words that you believe in 100%.

From posts I've discussed with you before, it seems to be that belief you're struggling with. Going 100%. You know the right things to believe, but you're still trying to convince yourself of them. You're headed in the right direction. :) It's just a matter of making them concrete and setting them in stone. The only way to find out is to GO until you can confirm those beliefs as true for yourself.

Pastiche

Funny Situation

2006-09-08T06:31:00.000-05:00

While in line (there was no line) at the book store, I noticed this one guy flirting with the cashier, asking her questions about herself. I watched his body language and smile, and I watched hers. Next thing you know she says to me, far from her, "CASH, CHECK, OR CREDIT? (Me: credit!) I can take you over here!" Soon he leaves.

Her: Ewww... gross!
Me: Hahaha... I had a feeling I knew what was going on. That was funny.
Her: Blah blah thank you. You're my life-saver! :D
Me: Blah blah
Her: I DO like your hair though. :)
Me: Wait... now are YOU hitting on me?
Her: NO nooo... blah blah. :D
Me: I'm just kidding. :) But it DOES start up some cool conversations. blah

She was pretty.

Pretty fat. O_o

I'm Sick!!!

2006-09-04T04:08:00.000-05:00

Ughhh... FUCK! I'm sick, and I have a fucking headache. :( :( :angry: :angry:

So what did I go off and do? I went to find out the Who's Who of journal posters. The hottest posters with the journals and success that I'd like to model mine after. I know who's doing the missions. I know who's got the right mindset. I know who to keep an eye on and listen to.

And I ALSO posted like... what? 21 TIMES!? DAYAMN!!! :shock:
I'm in the A&D Top 10 now, which means to me that I've acquired SOME deeper level of understanding.
It also means that I've been on my ass too much. :rolleyes:

The biggest thing I've learned today is that I need to be more aggressive. Even when Andres started to get on a roll, Ranko told him he was going too slow! Ranko told me I'm doing too less. He's right. I need to be more aggressive with this and a lot of other things.

I feel that I've done well to get my head straight about what it means to be direct. I've gotten my thoughts in order. Now I just want to do the missions. ILY Game is one of them. My goal for the month.

Summer
June (night): Indirect Approach and Attract Game. Ridding Approach Anxiety. 10 real numbers.
July (mostly night): The Cube, Connect/ Rapport Game. 1 stop. 9 real, more substantial numbers. Houston Lair Top 4 (129).
August (day): Thoroughly review CDs 1-4, Missions 1-8. Direct approaching and stopping. A few AWESOME numbers.

Fall
September: ILY Game. If I get that far, these ought to be the best numbers w/ REAL dates.

I always got numbers, emails, and MySpace addresses. Then I didn't care for them unless I'd setup a date. Now I don't care about setting up dates unless they know for a FACT what my intentions are. It goes all the way back to the missions.

Steady progress...

New Developments

2006-09-04T04:06:00.000-05:00

New Sensation
I get the thumping heartbeat now simply by seeing what I like (a tight, hot body, pretty face) from 100s of feet away. I was driving in my car, and I noticed a girl walking into a store. I found myself diligently checking her out, and my heart started to race a little. My "hottie radar" has improved a LOT!

New Rating Scale
To eliminate wondering of a girl is hot enough or not, I've simplified the process by asking myself: "Is she prettier than me?" :lol: If she is, go. If she's not, why bother? Simple. :D

New Habit
I work close to my local mall (and I go to school near another one). I've made it a habit to go there whenever I'm on break. If a student or more is absent, and I just want to read, I'll go to the mall and sit on a bench to do it. Funny thing is, when I get there, I'd rather walk around and check girls out. Better than reading. ;)

I need to just go for the FIRST girl I see that sparks a curiosity in me. I walked around yesterday, and the only hot girl I came across was the one leaving the mall towards the parking lot as I was going in. I saw her walking towards me from a distance and checked her out of course. GREAT legs. Pretty face (yeah, she was prettier than me :D, but I didn't apply my principle). We had to stop from both sides of the street to let a car by. Then I noticed she was checking me out, and we had locked eye contact. Did I do anything? NO.

New Excuse: "There will be other girls in there to approach."
While that may be true, I'm using this positive outlook more as an excuse to let me pass up on a girl. And then whether or not there happens to be more hotties in there, I'll continue to think for the next girl, and keep passing girls up. Not just malls, but clubs, and other places. This is the same for everywhere I go. Now that I recognize the excuse, I know what I have to do to overcome it.

I don't want to approach with Traveler or Horoscope anymore. I wanna do ILY Game! It amazes me how hard it is for me right now. I know that when I get into it, it will get easier and easier. Eventually, I will get so pissed off for letting all these opportunities go by that I will force myself to man up and do it. I have no reason to put it off.

I pitched a pact with rarebreed Sunday to tell just ONE girl that she's beautiful this week. I wasn't sure how easy or hard it would be. I knew I did it over a week ago just for shits and giggles after a Traveler Mission, but I'm making a big deal out of it now since it is the focus. It's ridiculous, really.

New Breakthrough
I managed to get it out last night when a cute girl offered to help me move my gear from my car to the stage. This was soon after she laughed at something I said to someone else earlier. I said it in a more Juggler-oriented (SOI) format: "So you're beautiful, AND you're helpful." But even with that, it was hard to get out! :angry: :rolleyes:

Funny though, it automatically sparked some wide rapport! While I was setting up, we were getting to know each other. Soon I excused myself telling her that I'd talk to her later, but I have to finish setting up. I told her I would get her info later, and she was cool with that. Unfortunately, she and her friends had to leave soon, and even tho she said they'd come back, they didn't. Had I just went for the info exchange right away, it would have worked out. Coulda been a real, rapport-based number in about 5 minutes. Live and learn.

I found out today that she's a model! AHHH!!! I had no idea. I saw her in plain clothes as a normal person, and I STILL thought she was beautiful. That's good stuff. :)

I DID end up getting a hot girl's number tho. All these other guys hit on her, but she was cool with me. So far, every time I've gone to that venue to play (even back in October before I joined the community), I've picked up a girl. Something I'd like to keep up. :)

New Bond
I've also recognized my keyboardist to be the most direct and alpha person I personally know. In fact, he's a very difficult person for most people to "deal with" because not only is he direct, he's also very aggressive in body language, tone, and action. That's something he knows he needs to work on. The mere fact that I can hang with him tells me a lot about myself. But I let him know that beyond the aggressiveness, I see that he's a very passionate person, and he really cares for the people in his life. Everything about him is very obvious and clear. No one can bullshit around him.

Going home after the gig, we talked on the phone, and I told him something like: "There was always something I learned from you... moreso than anything you've tried to verbally teach us about music. And it isn't about music. Do you know what that is? I learned more from you by observing your behavior, and the way you view the world. You're the most direct person in my life, and that makes me want to keep you in my life."

We had a great conversation that built up our brotherly bond even more. He teaches me things about being direct that are genuine without him even being aware of it. He's not from the pickup scene. He's a natural alpha. And if I'm to be naturally direct, it's good to have people like him around that aren't biased with pickup theory.

The more direct people I surround myself with, the more direct I will become.

Direct Approach: Number in 3 Minutes (PickUp 101)

2006-08-22T05:48:00.000-05:00

Here's Joe from PickUp 101 showing how simple it is to go direct and get a number in 3 minutes.

He actually told me about this when he came out with it, and mentioned it wasn't one of his better sets.

But heck, if that's what he's like when he's nervous, I can't imagine what he's like when his game is totally on!

Daytime Pickup

It's nothing outstanding, and it's not supposed to be.

Enjoy! :D

-P-

Seduction School (Charisma Arts/ Juggler Method)

2006-08-22T05:35:00.000-05:00

Esoteric: "The Attraction Chronicles weblog has Seduction School up on the site.

It's broken into five pieces, and has been put up on You Tube as well (which is where The AC is streaming it from). I'm sure you can get it straight from You Tube if you want.

I just watched it and I thought it was quite good. It certainly didn't look like the three subjects were going to accomplish anything at all, but by the end of the show, good things were happening."

Should bring back reminders of your hard AA days. I know it did for me. (50 minutes)

Life Rules by Badboy

2006-06-30T00:41:00.000-05:00

1) Girls Will Not Make You Happy
Happiness is inside YOU, not in other people… or stuff that you need to buy. That is exactly society wants you to think; to look outside yourself to others or things you need to buy for your happiness. But this can only bring temporary happiness. Most girls out there are unhappy with their lives and they search for a man to make them happy. Actually they search for a happy man, to jump into his life, and enjoy his life. That is why you must focus on yourself first, before you bring someone else in your life.

2) If You Don’t Change You Will Stay Where You Are
This is simple. Same actions get same results. If you are not happy with what you are getting from life, it’s time to change. Try anything, but don’t stay where you are because it will lead you exactly to where you are now. Moving in a new direction will lead to new results.

3) What Would You Do If There Was No Fear?
Can you imagine how your life would be if there were absolutely no fear in it? Ask yourself, what would you do, how would you behave? Then start doing those things, little by little, to decondition yourself from fear and reprogram yourself to do the things you really want to do. When you beat your fear, you will be FREE.

4) The Sooner You Forget Your Old Girlfriend, The Sooner You Will Find a New One
Most guys, after they break up with a girl, they think about her for months. It’s normal after long term relationships to have emotions for that girl, but the sooner you forget about her, the sooner you will find a new girl. Be aware that an end is a new beginning. It’s smart to always have a backup girl in your life, so when you break up with one girl, you can jump to the other one. That is the reason why you should always stay social and go out, no matter how hot and pefect your girl is. There is always a chance you will break up.

5) Don ’t Wait For Girls To Come To You
You should always be pro-active. It’s a very bad idea to stay home and think, “Its just going to happen.” That’s how girls think, because they generally play a more passive role in society. It’s written in your genes that we are the stronger sex, the hunters, the ones that make thing happen. That’s how it’s been for million of years. Don’t betray your genes and evolution.

6) If You Think You Can Get The Girl, You Can
It’s very important to stay focused on positivity and be sure that for every action you do, sooner or later you will be rewarded. Avoid negative thoughts, girls can feel it, and as soon they smell you are a “bad thinker” they will avoid you.

7) Go For Your Dreams
Never abandon your dreams. They will keep you motivated. There is nothing on this planet that can stop you from making your dreams come true, except you. There is nothing more important than your dreams. Life is too short to not make yourself happy.

8) Start Chasing Girls And ENJOY It
Soon you will realize that the chase is so much fun it is often times better than the actual sex is. In the long run, girls like sex more than guys do. We get bored with one girl pretty quickly and our genes motivate us to a find a new girl, to spread our semen. While girls are programmed to find that 'special one' and raise kids with him. So enjoy the chase, enjoy going out, and have fun doing it. It’s a natural instinct for us.

9) Life Is Constant Change
Those who cannot adapt themselves to new environments will die. To be really successful in life and with women, you must use everything life gives you. All your good and bad qualities. You must use all disadvantages to your advantage. Loud music, dark clubs, your hobbies... everything! It’s a skill to learn to use everything to your advantage. It’s different way of thinking than you are p robably used to but always ask yourself, "What can I do with this?" and, "How can I use this in my favour?"

10) The More You Worry About Getting Girls, The Less Success You Will Have
Neediness is a big turn off for everybody. When you want something too much, it lowers your value as a person. It means something is more important then you are. So the key is: know what you want on the inside, but be cool, like you don’t care too much on the outside or that it will come easily to you. The less you appear to care and the easier things seem for you, the better results you will get.

11) Every Girl Is A Potential Girlfriend, Whether You Realize It Or Not
Everything is an opportunity. The girl walking down the street, two girls in a coffeeshop talking, the girl next door . If you take what life gives you and make the absolute most of it, you will find a lot of opportunities that you never thought were possible. A new girl will come to you as a gift if you enjoy it as a challenge, make the move and beat your fear.

12) Fear of Change Will Prevent You From Changing
People are afraid of change. Most of them are zombies, and they don’t want to change because of a fear of the unknown. And of course if you don’t change you will get what you’ve always got. You must SEE the advantage of changing yourself and take ACTION immediately, even if it is uncomfortable.

Dating Advice by Badboy

2006-06-23T18:27:00.000-05:00

You must learn how to date.

Every date you go on is a chance to seduce the girl you are dating, and to start a beautiful relationship with her. Dating is a skill to be learned. Follow my dating advice, and you'll become a dating monster!

Dating ADVICE #1

If you do everything correctly, you should be kissing and getting more physical with the girl all the way along to your fifth date. Those first 5 dates are crucial. Usually during the second and third dates, the girl will decide whether she wants to be with you or not.

Badboy: "Dating is like playing a game. Everytime you do it, you will get better and better at it. There is some dating advice and some rules that you should stick to."

Dating ADVICE #2

If a girl agrees to date 4-5, she is interested in you. You just need to make it happen. So Do it!

Badboy: "Everybody on this planet is doing exactly the same thing on dates. Be different.
Avoid the usual dating scenarios: movies, dinner, bars, and clubs. Girls are bored with it. Give them some FUN."

Dating ADVICE #3

Date with style. Let the date be adventurous, interesting and unpredictable. Take her bungee jumping, to an art gallery, to the zoo, to watch the stars.

Badboy: "The best advice I can give you is: Be different!”

Dating ADVICE #4

Start seeing multiple girls - always have a backup. You’re much better off seeing two girls per week than one every day. Your life will be more interesting, and girls will usually fight for your attention when they realize they are not the only one in your life. Don’t be afraid to enjoy your life. Life is too short!

MISTAKE #1

Don’t buy flowers or other things to make a girl like you. It’s SUSPICIOUS - a big turn-off for her.
The girl must like you because of who you are - not because of your money or your power to buy her things.

MISTAKE #2

Don’t make your sexual move too soon – that’s really bad. Don't be NEEDY. Relax and enjoy your time with her. Everything will happen in good time.

MISTAKE #3

It’s also a mistake NOT to make a move at all – that’s just as bad as the previous mistake. If you don’t make any move, or you don’t show enough interest in her during the first 5-6 dates, she may think that you don’t like her or that you just want to be FRIENDS.
Once you enter the “let’s just be friends zone," you’ve created a big problem for yourself.

MISTAKE #4

Don’t expect the girl to lead the date. You must be the MAN. You must exert control over the date. Girls expect that from us. Be creative and use your imagination.

MISTAKE #5

When you are in a bar, don’t sit on the opposite side of the table from her. That’s a big mistake. Never sit so the table is between you and her. Sit next to her. Then you are closer to her, and you also have the opportunity to touch her and be physical with her.

The Physiology of Body Language

2006-06-09T05:41:00.000-05:00

I feel like I definitely need to include this article in my blog.

Months ago, I felt like I had this stuff down pat. I'd come from a hardcore marching band school, and I'd taken a dance class. So naturally, I took it for granted. But I found that this stuff is ABSOLUTELY key. I hadn't paid as much attention to it before... that is until I latched onto one key element from some Pickup101 material I'd never thought of before.

PHYSIOLOGY.

Think of something that SUCKS. Go back in time and imagine a scenario that just about made you keel over. Now smile. Chances are, you can't help but feel a bit lighter. A bit happier. Now try to get back into that negative state. You may find it's not as easy to return to! This is EXACTLY what I missed when I would do my body language stuff. Some part of me felt confident with it, I just didn't realize that putting myself in such a posture would do it automatically. I didn't realize there was chemistry at work.

I used to do it to cover up my insecurities. I'd walk around all hard and with a 'tude on my face. People would tell me to smile. People thought I was either mad or in deep thought all the time. But really, it was just my normal face! (Actually this, coupled with my extreme introvertedness in early high school, gave me an aura of mystery and presence that DID get some girls to approach and flirt with me. Hot ones! Too bad I was too jacked up to not know whatever the hell to do!!!) Heck, I STILL do it, but now I use it as a first impression tool. The look. The presence. The way I carry myself.

Now, I do approaches, and I pay more attention to my body. Lo and behold, it feels REALLY good to be in set and NOT flinch. Not even a fidget. To hold eye contact even when I can't think of things to say. It's come to the point where, if this happens, sometimes I don't even TRY to think of anything to say. I'll just look into her eyes, brows arched, looking at her like she's the cutest dork in the world, just as she rambles on and makes herself laugh. It's FUNNY SHIT. And I don't even have to DO anything!

With body language alone, you can flip on 10 out of about 15 attraction switches! This leaves you with 5 more switches, one story per switch, for 25 minutes of your time. You don't even need ALL of them. Just tell 1-3 within a good 15 minute conversation for a solid day2 close! Anyway, without further adieu, I present to you Badboy's definitive Body Language Guide @ Spirit Fingers' newly designed Sex Revolution Blog.

Pastiche

The StyleLife Challenge

2006-06-08T16:07:00.000-05:00

Wanna see Style in his AFC days?

Mystery Plows Through Shit Tests!

2006-06-08T03:58:00.000-05:00

Mystery is... THE SHIT!!!

The Art of Testing by Swinggcat

2006-06-08T03:14:00.000-05:00

Hey guys,

How would you like to learn secrets that will cut the amount of time you need to spend learning how to ATTRACT women in half, while simultaneously doubling your success with women?

I am going to share three of them with you. I remember how excited I was when it dawned on me what these secrets are. It happened around six years ago while hanging with my friend Gino (Pay attention: Gino is one of the guys who had a big influence on me). Although Gino was of Middle Eastern descent, he would tell women that he was Italian and that his name was Gino Gambino.

Gino Gambino was not his real name - I don't think I even remember his real name! Does this guy sound cheesy or what? It gets better. He wasn't just ugly, he was oooogly: he had greasy slicked back hair, a long protruding nose, and little eyes that looked like dull bits of clay dropped into the eye sockets.

Gino called me up one Saturday afternoon suggesting that we go pick up women at a community college. I met him down there. Gino, the urban product of watching too many bad Italian gangster movies and listening to too many MTV rap videos on how to be a player, was sporting a repugnant white linen suit, terminator shades, and brown loafers with no socks - can we say gross?! To top it off, Gino was blessed with a vile scent: I could smell his body odor from several feet away. Maybe he believed his pheromones ATTRACTED women, I don't know. But it was so bad that day that every time I inhaled I writhed from his über stench. The impending events, however, blew my mind.

Gino immediately got to work. He swaggered up to a woman with his nineteen-seventies “I'm a macho man” posturing and spouted in his thick foreign accent one of his cheesy pick up lines, “I'm going to call you luscious. You know why? Because you are voluptuous.” Things, then, took a gruesome turn for the ugly when the girl threatened to call campus security on Gino. Unfazed by what just happened, Gino impetuously started talking to another girl - but this time, he slightly modified his approach. It did not, alas, go well for him - after only a few minutes the woman demanded that he leave her alone. So he started talking to yet another girl, modifying his approach even further. On the approach he was still really cheesy and was touting himself to her as God's gift to women. Overall, however, the girl was into him and she ended up giving him her phone number. As he modified his approach with each new woman he talked to his results got progressively better.

The next three women he approached ended up giving him their phone numbers. Next he approached two really hot babes and ended up having the women come over to his apartment. What happened next is not appropriate for this newsletter. So you can use your imagination. All I can say is that it was pretty amazing what he pulled off. After that day, I witness Gino accomplish many more amazing feats with women.

What are the life changing secrets I learned from Gino? What are the secrets that will dramatically increase your success with women? I'll tell you this much: These secrets are the reason why I am able to get progressively better and better with women. Here they are.

1. ALWAYS START WITH CRAP...

Starting with crappy material can bring you rock star success with women. Likewise, waiting until you have developed top notch material before attempting to ATTRACT women in the REAL WORLD will make your sex life sparser than most ninety year old men.

Crap is defined as any material used to engage a woman that you didn't have to study, for example, the cheesy pick up lines Gino uses to engage women. The beauty of using crap is that it might actually work and the invested time you spend studying it is zero.

Some of you, who have been reading my newsletters and have had the opportunity to read my book, might think I am contradicting some of my past advice, namely, that it is a good idea to have a few memorized stories. Let me clarify. I endorse using memorized material - and, in fact, I, myself, use memorized material. What I am against is the guy who spends hours upon hours, sitting in his bedroom, thinking of different things to say to women.

I'm going to tell you a little story. When I was first learning how to ATTRACT women I get a guy who had been studying seduction and dating for years - I think he owned just about every dating self-help product available. Every time we would hang out he would tell me that he did not want to talk to women because he was still developing his ultimate seduction system. One day he called me, telling me that he had finally finished his seduction system and that he was ready to talk to women. I took him to a nightclub where he approached a few women. And you know what: The women were totally turned off by him. How sad! - all of that wasted time.

This is what I call “mental masturbation” and here's why: When you sit in your bedroom, coming up with things to say to women, you are basing it on what you THINK will ATTRACT women, not what necessarily ATTRACTS women. I find that it is much more effective, however, to base your material on REAL WORLD experiences of ATTRACTING women. Put in other words, start with crap and PAY ATTENTION to how women react to it. The more you use your crappy material the more you will be able to hone it into something powerfully effective - just like Gino did with his cheesy pick up lines. You will notice that certain things are working. Take what's working, go home, polish and rehearse it, making it even more effective. This will become your memorized material. But it will be based on REAL WORLD EXPERIENCE.

A caveat: I am not saying that you should never sit down and think of ways to ATTRACT women. I think doing this is fine. Just keep it to a minimum and realize that your best material is going to come from interacting with women in the REAL WORLD.

My book, which is based on my experiences in the REAL WORLD ATTRACTING WOMEN, will save you a lot of time because it will give you the right intuitions for knowing when you are ATTRACTING a woman and when you are repelling her. Using my book in conjunction with going out and practicing on REAL LIVE WOMEN IN THE REAL WORLD will synergistically turbo charge your success with women. So, if you are ready to make a commitment to living the life you want to live, come pick up my book today.

www.realworldseduction.com

This leads nicely into the next secret...

2. ALWAYS TEST...

I have observed that most guys allocate their time learning how to ATTRACT women as follows: eighty percent of their time is spent “studying how” to attract women, and only twenty percent of their time is spent “actually” attracting women in the REAL WORLD. This is unfortunate because, in my experience, “studying how” to ATTRACT women only accounts for twenty percent of what will improve your skill set with women.

Practicing on real live women in the REAL WORLD, however, accounts for eighty percent of what will increase your skill set attracting women. The reason is this: When you are practicing attracting women in the real world it allows you to test what is “actually” working, and what is not. When you study this material in a vacuum, however, you have no way to test if it is going to work. You become like my friend who was trying to come up with the ultimate seduction system.

Not testing is one of the biggest reasons men DON'T succeed with women. Almost every guy I know who is amazing with women is very diligent about testing...even if he is not conscious of it. Testing is about developing your willingness to try things you normally wouldn't do with a woman, and paying close attention to how she reacts. Mastering the art of testing will inevitably increase your success with women.

3. HAVE THE CONFIDENCE TO PUSH FORWARD INTO UNFAMILIAR TERRITORY...

This one relates to the last two. Most guys want to know exactly what to do at each stage in the process of ATTRACTING a woman. This gives them a sense of control and certainty. When faced with a situation where they are uncertain what to do, they buckle completely. This is because when most men feel uncertain and out of control, they loose all of their confidence, causing women to perceive them as not being the PRIZE. As you know if you have been following my newsletters, women are ATTRACTED to men who are the PRIZE, not the other way around. Loosing your confidence, therefore, is a BAD THING!

One of the distinguishing mind sets of guys who are really good with women is their willingness and confidence to push themselves forward into the realm of uncertainty. When in this realm of uncertainty, they do not worry about not having a clever technique to handle a difficult situation. Instead, they experiment with whatever comes to mind, testing until they find something that works superb.

Along your journey learning how to attract women, you will encounter situations where you will feel uncertain how to respond, ranging from, for example, women acting in unexpected ways, to them testing you...and so on.

Having the confidence and willingness to enter into this unfamiliar and uncertain realm is what distinguishes the master from the beginner. A big key to making this work is having a strong intent: Having the focus and desire to get your intended outcome, coupled with the unwavering belief that you can achieve your outcome. Put in other words, you have to assume whatever it is you are saying or doing to a woman is going have the desired effect. If you do not yet have a strong intent, preventing you from confidently pushing yourself outside your comfort zone, you are severely hindering your development learning how to attract women. My book will give you powerful tools for developing a strong intent. If you are sick and tired of being where you currently are with women and ready to take your success with women to a new level, start reading my book now.

www.realworldseduction.com

Another element to making these secrets work is respecting the process. What allows someone to use crap, test it, and confidently push into situations he is uncertain how to handle is having the mindset that ATTRACTING WOMEN is only a process. He has the belief that when he fails to ATTRACT a women, it does not mean there is something wrong with him; it means there is a flaw in the process he used to ATTRACT her. He knows that fixing this flaw is as simple as testing material until he finds what works. If you're ready to step up to the plate and start experiencing the life style with women you desire, order now...

www.realworldseduction.com

'Till next time,

Swinggcat

Yellow Fever

2006-06-08T02:58:00.000-05:00

I saw this, and I just HAD to post it. Enjoy!

Excerpts: Swinggcat - Unstoppable Confidence

2006-06-08T01:22:00.000-05:00

There are men who don't have money, looks, youth, or fame… yet consistently succeed with the women they desire. Women society dictates are out of their league.

They do this because of three things…

1). They don't have the limiting beliefs that hold most men back.

2). They walk into every interaction with a woman believing they are the Prize she's emotionally compelled to win over.

3). They've mastered the skill set of sparking and increasing attraction in the women they desire (and, yes, you too can spark attraction in women despite looks, age, money, or fame).

Though there's not many of these men on our planet, I was lucky enough to learn from a few of them.

Most of these guys don't make their living teaching men how to date women.

Heck, most don't even know they are ladies' men. They just live in a reality where women respond to them in the most mind blowing ways.

So, it was pure luck that I met them.

BOAT, Bullet Time, and Rapport

2006-06-03T14:06:00.000-05:00

Blank Out Approach Theory (BOAT)
You can be completely aware that you're about to make this approach. At first, you may find your legs moving, or if you're sitting down, moving to stand up. Now at this moment, it would be odd to sit back down. You'll have gotten up for no apparent reason. Likewise, it would be odd for you to walk back to your initial position, so you might as well keep going.

Move to position yourself closer and closer to your target. In Philosophy of the Mind, my professor talked about how, to get from point A to point B, you'd first have to get halfway between A and B. Let's call this A.5. Then you'd have to get halfway between A.5 and B, and let's call that A.75. And so on. Get it? If all else fails, you can just walk past your target to go and do something else (like go to the restroom, talk to someone else, etc.) and regroup. This also sets you up to return to your initial position, which would include having to pass by your target set again, giving you a 2nd chance.

Bullet Time
The closer and closer you get to your set, the more your mind should blank out. Your body language and breathing should be EXTREMELY slow. Imagine going into "Bullet Time." Your confidence, in part, may come from knowing that this "Bullet Time Effect" coupled with blanking out is sure to help you succeed. At this point, say whatever comes to mind that you had initially thought moments ago before blanking out.

The last thing you want to do is have the outer body experience of you watching and analyzing the things you say and coming up with that PERFECT response. GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD! Know that staying in your head is a means of impending failure. You have 2 ears and 1 mouth, so LISTEN twice as much as you speak. Get comfortable with the feeling of, "Oh wow. This is easy! Much less thinking and speaking on my part. More for her to do." In this case, less is more. Guys, I'm a lazy ass by human nature. Why try harder when you don't have to?

Wide and Deep Rapport
1) Superficial and Mundane - Things and events, favorite music, anything you already like.
2) Quirky and Meaningful - Childhood experiences, odd, funny stories, realizations, etc.
3) Pivotal Milestones - Life-changing experiences, decisions, hard times (stay positive).
4) Deep, Truthful, and Vulnerable - A few stories that most people don't know about you.

You WON'T reach every level with every girl. Some girls don't like to get into deep conversations. I, for one, LOVE getting into deep, intellectual conversations. I feel it's my natural state of mind to contemplate deeply and thoroughly. Or to just sit back, observe, and enjoy the interactions around me. I generally think WAY too much!

In Wide Rapport, the interactions will be much more fun and playful. You can act things out, make funny faces and sounds, and couple that with playful touching, such as poking, pinky swears, high fives, the rock, light slapping (like on the wrist or the butt). In Deep Rapport, you're actually leading your girl into your own "Bullet Time Reality." The things around you will slow down, and time itself may be at a standstill. If done too early, it could be awkward. It would become a premature development in conversation. OR your girl could be more of the playful type and just get bored. Use calibration to see which direction your girl would rather go.

On the other hand, some women would prefer to go straight into intellectual talk. More slow and affectionate kino: hand holding, caressing, massaging, etc. Now if she JUMPS into this kind of conversation, it would actually prompt me to lively it up a little and make it somewhat playful without being immature. At that point, you may want to tap into her childlike side, which most of her boring intellectual friends probably don't do. Basically, be serious or playful without being boring. It's all Push-Pull. Again, use calibration. Only experience in the field will breed success. And only success will breed TRUE confidence.

To sum all this up: set your BOAT out. Raise your sail. Just ride the waves, and go where the wind my take you.

Hmmm... cheezy, yet profound. I dig it.

;D

Pastiche

Excerpts: Stephen Nash (CEIC) - Going Solo

2006-06-03T03:59:00.000-05:00

Going out solo forces you to interact with new people. I have always had positive results from doing things alone. The key is to make friends when you arrive.

Your goal is to meet new people, right? Why not apply a little social pressure to yourself and go alone, so you cannot hide behind the familiarity of your friends?

The worst thing that happens is that you attend an event, you extend your hand in introduction to people, and they completely reject you (never happens by the way, but this is the worst case scenario). All this does is prove that they are snobs and not worth your time.

You leave knowing you tried to meet new people and they were just too close-minded to make space for a new, cool person in their little world.

With the right attitude, going to things alone is a great way to expand your social circle. If you decide to do this, here is a strategy for increasing your effectiveness:

1) Arrive, and introduce yourself to the host of the party (or event organizer)
2) Mingle with some of the guys there (way easier for most guys to chat with guys…right?)
3) Now that you have some male friends as a base, mingle within their social circle – who knows, they may have single, available female friends with them.
4) Then, begin to mingle off of their social circle. As you converse and discuss things, bring other people into it – “hey, we are discussing ___, what do you think about ____?” Presto, you have just expanded the social circle.

Now, we can take this further if there is a woman there that has caught your eye, and you want to meet her.

5) Take the lead, and move the group you are in to “her” area of the room.
6) When you are in her vicinity, bring into your circle the closest person to you that is in “her” circle.
7) Again, take the lead, and present the topic to her circle, connecting the two social circles.

Presto, you are involved in her circle. Although there are seven steps to this little process – it is easy, and can be repeated anytime, and in any social setting.

When she says something, take the lead and respond. This begins a conversation with you and her.

One word of advice, if you really want to begin a good conversation with her, and make it look smooth in the process – disagree with whatever she says.

That's right, find a way to disagree with her. Then, it makes perfect sense that the two of you talk – as you now have to work out your disagreement!

The above structure is a classic way of socializing that has worked for me countless times. If your goal is merely to expand your social circle, follow this and find yourself meeting new people constantly.

This is also a great way to smoothly meet the “her” in the room.

Of course, you can also just walk up to her and introduce yourself…that might be simpler, and more impressive too. Doing that is a lot easier if you have made some friends first, and established a home base somewhere in the sea of strangers.

After the Opener

2006-05-31T03:20:00.000-05:00

With all the Annihilation ruckus that's Style's been stirring up, I've decided to take into more consideration his 4-step model:

1) Open
2) DHV
3) Emotional Connection
4) Physical Connection

How ever shrewd Mystery's M3 model may be on the natural phases of love, Style's simplification of the M3 model may be that much shrewder.

Focus and Clarity
I was first introduced to Style's model in his interview with David D. last Fall (an interview which, btw, preceded the issue of my foremost revered pickup master: Sensei). While Sensei and his crew's ongoing outlet of wisdom has transformed me for the most part, I like the way Style's planning and sense of direction works. Instead of having the M3 model as the subtext to your gaming, Style's method tells you what you need to focus on. And it's been said that the Annihilation Method can be completely tailored to your gaming process, and after giving it some thought, I can absolutely see how it would fit all styles of game, including direct. With Sensei and Bad Boy's teachings, I was still stuck in A + C = S land. Style kinda blurs the lines and helps you focus on that bridge between attraction and connection.

I guess its most profound impact on my planning has to do with helping me realize where exactly my sticking points lie, and at the moment, that would be firmly establishing higher value and creating that emotional connection. At this point, I can see where his talent for calibration comes in. There are times when I KNOW I've DHV'd well (largely in part to body language awareness), but then at that point, I wouldn't know where to go. It's like "Gee, I've gotten pretty comfortable with opening. Now what?" Well depending on how well you've DHV'd, you either need to establish it further, or totally take what you want and create that emotional connection. From there, you can either run some kind of elliciting values routine or go into deeper rapport conversations.

Eureka!
So basically, my biggest sticking point has been figuring out what to do after the opener. And now here I am, at 3:48 am, wrapping up this blog, and after having done a little focused research and planning on post-opener direction. I've quenched my restlessness for the night, and now I can wake up and celebrate my birthday knowing that I definitely have some things to try out towards the weekend when I see my wing(s) again. My Friday nights are gonna be all kinds of BOOKED!

Happy Birthday me!

Pastiche

Learning Style - Simplified

2006-04-24T14:05:00.000-05:00

1.) Attend all meetings and events.
2.) DON'T QUIT.

The events are a part of your applied education. Don't limit yourself to eBooks, CDs, and DVDs. These are all great ways to associate with your preferred mentors. Attendance also reinforces your association with the kind of person you want to be and the lifestyle you want to live. You can predict your income in 5 years if you average out the incomes of your five closest friends. Not enough dough? Well then, my friend, you're gonna have to build a new crew. This doesn't mean you have to get rid of the old crew, you're just gradually reducing limiting elements in your lifestyle and moving towards a more progressive one. By all means, keep in touch with your old buddies. You may even inspire them to get out of their ruts.

Don't ever stop learning.
I see it as a limiting belief when I hear about guys who think they've spent so much money and gone through a lot to learn so many things and wind up feeling like they need to throw this stuff away and start anew. Well I think that's somewhat true. Your learning reduces the friction you have to free flow. It's a fundamental principle of improvisation to learn EVERYTHING you can, and then when it's showtime, forget it it all!

I do this all the time in band practices and on stage. I've found that when I DO become overly conscious of what I'm doing to the point where my analytical mind gets in the way, my flow gets disrupted. Being AWARE of these things is enough, just don't let it run your game. Eventually you'll develop your own style of doing things, influenced by the greatest minds in the biz. Whether you like it or not, you're indebted to them for getting you out of your rut and helping you build a better life.

There WAS a time that I actually had to UNLEARN techniques of drumming to build a different style. Since then, I've been able to distinguish the differences between the techniques, and turn them on and off at will. This applies well to using the right styles at the right time. You might even call this natural game. As the guys of theApproach coin it, it's about going SitRel: Situationally Relevant. Calibrate for this. Do the right things at the right time. Now keep in mind, I'm still a baby when it comes to all this stuff. I'm just taking what I've learned over the years, transferring, and applying them to this arena.

Do, THEN think.
Go out and enjoy yourself everywhere you go. Make the most of it. Carpe diem! Then reflect on your experiences over the day or the week, and so on. It's only a mistake if you don't learn from it. You either learn, or you win.

One more thing about educating yourself: readers are leaders. I'm reminded of a quote from Brian Tracy that I can't quite remember. But it was something to the effect of reading a book a week. 50 books a year is a surefire shot to a successful life.

Pastiche

Collapsing Time Frames

2006-04-23T12:01:00.000-05:00

Here's a basic numbers progression for reaching your goals:

Do in 90 days what would normally take a year.
Do in 30 days what would normally take 3 months.
Do in 10 days what would normally take a month.
Do in 2 days what would normally take a week.

Set It and Forget It

2006-04-21T01:21:00.000-05:00

i am NOT an master of the arts. if anything, i'm just a guy working to improve his natural game to suit his needs. i'm NOT gonna go completely out of my way to learn certain things if i really don't feel like it. if i notice that i come across a certain situation quite often, THAT's when i'll see whether i want to do something about it, so that i make the most of the situation should it happen again.

Move Forward
i see it coming in the near future: there'll be a time that i review this blog and i'll notice a change in perspective. heck, isn't that what we do with journals anyway? views from the current perspective may conflict showing improvement and progression of the self. it's good track record. a progress report.

i'm finding that to really move on in my personal quest, i'll have to calm my racing mind by putting it down here, and then leaving it alone, not having to recall it in my mind again. all i have to do is look back here. on the other hand, a major benefit of this is that i'll be able to think of other things, perhaps towards innovation, and then i'll be able to put THOSE down here, and move on again. so on and so forth.

It's Music, Baby.
it's just like when you've thought of ideas for a song, and you don't wanna forget them. you write them down! and then what happens is that having put it down in writing allows you to free your mind, giving it the liberty of coming up with new material, sooner than if your mind were full of other crap. to stay progressive, i believe that the mind cannot afford to be stuck for very long. it's the difference between taking too much time to make a perfect hit when you could have come up with 10 great ideas, where 3 of them quickly and easily turned out to be remarkable without much thought.

Don't Regress!
i'm here to stay progressive. apparently i have a lot to say, and therefore, TOO MUCH on my mind. i have so much going on what with work, school, the band, gigs, social scene, etc. that i can't let myself be clouded by all the craziness. initially, this may seem like another thing on my plate, but in hindsight, its purpose is to move forward and improve the overall way i look at things and live my life. it's as necessary as books, pen, and paper for class. it's not that i don't have time for it. i have to MAKE time for it. it's just a part of my schedule. just like daygame in between appointments, ease it in.

Balance
that, and i also need to remind myself that i've always been a complete BRAIN when it comes to my own beliefs and philosophy. aside from my random, playful, corkiness, i'm a deep analytical thinker. those that've seen glimpses of this side of me have said that they'd go CRAZY if they thought the way i did. others have been intrigued by my sense of maintaining a balanced life. well whatever it is, it's a blessing for me.

i'm grateful for it.

Pastiche

Peace of Mind

2006-04-19T14:44:00.000-05:00

i've realized that my ultimate goal (or core value, you could say) for all this PUA business is to achieve a peace of mind. i research things and buy products according to whether my mind races about it or not. and i'm EXTREMELY picky about where i put my money. i'm the same way with girls. i used to have such ridiculously high standards that i've had to lower them a bit for me to even consider approaching more than what i'm truly looking for. these prospects may wind up as friends, or i might learn something new about the kinds of girls i'm open to... which is typically white, brunette, and petite.

i need to post something later about whether having too high standards can be a bad thing.

Learning Style
here's my approach to learning the ways of the PUA:
1.) learn everything you can.
2.) go and fuck it up! (and have fun doing it)

set your ego aside, and be willing to get your ass kicked. in reality, it's not gonna be that bad. 98% of the time, your fears don't come true. and sure, it may not be the most comfortable route, but it sure is the fastest!

for me, i'm really not concerned about going into the night scene and talking to all these girls. the kinds of girls i want will naturally show up in my lifestyle. before this community, i positioned myself so that i'm doing all the things i always wanted to do, and i'll have a peace of mind. the only area i really felt lacking was in relations with attractive women. and now that i'm on that track of eventually becoming the ladies man i want to be, i know it's only inevitable. it's like i'm learning as i go, and i'm kinda waiting it out. and whatever interactions i cross with women and people in general, i've been able to enjoy to the fullest. now it's like i'm making the most of my life from every angle, and i can't imagine where i'll be a year from now. i should add a 3rd bulletpoint to my approach list:

3.) DON'T QUIT.

if you don't get out of the game... EVER... then how can you lose? despite whatever failures may come, don't let ANYTHING knock you off track. laugh, shrug it off, and keep going. sure will obviously take longer if you do next to nothing while in the eBook and audio/video phase, but that is no reason to give up. bottom line: are you better off WITH, or WITHOUT the community? whichever answer gives you the peace of mind you're looking for wins.

also, don't listen to what most guys say on ASF and in the community. simply choose your favorite methods and use them as guides and mentors. and then don't feel obligated to do anything unless you really want to do it, and you'll have fun doing so. it's whatever it means to you. it is what you make of it. if you know that you need someone to push you into sets because you won't do it on your own, well then find a wing who'll help you out. this will put you in the right state of mind when the time comes. when it's all about YOU, your committment will shine through and come off in your body language, tonality, and overall vibe.

oh, and: 4.) attend all the events and meetings.

this includes: lair meetings, bars, clubs, coffeeshops, bookstores, shopping strips, malls, school, etc. basically anywhere you might find HBs. 95% of your success will simply depend on you SHOWING UP. that's it! just by showing up, you're better off than the other 19 lazy asses and recluses. that's you separating yourself from the crowd. don't go with the crowd. don't go with society. most of them are dumbasses.

Positioning
really, this approach is all about POSITIONING yourself for success. if you create a life on your own terms that is to your liking and all the pieces fit well, it's only natural for you to come across the kind of girls you like. everyone wants to be around people that are just like them. and if you go after you're goals and dreams, you'll find others with the same aspirations and ambitions. sure, there may be a 1 out of 20 chance that you're gonna run into that special girl, but with everything you've learned up to this point, you're gonna be READY to show her a reality she's never seen before.

Design a Life
so it is essential that you KNOW YOURSELF, and get your lifestyle down pat. organize your schedule so that you make time for all the essential things that make you feel like a complete person. time for work, hobbies, education, fun, family, friends, food etc. do all the things that give you a peace of mind. YOU design it. YOU are the architect. YOU say what goes and what doesn't when it comes to YOUR life.

Do today what others won't so you can do tomorrow what others can't. Happiness will come to those of you who work and play and can't tell the difference. Don't do anything that doesn't feel right... and don't regret anything that does.

Pastiche

Positive’s short direct stack (from PU101)

2006-04-19T02:57:00.000-05:00

For anyone who wants to use a direct opener, here’s a short stack, somewhat similar to what I use in field. This isn’t super-intense movie moment style direct. In a nutshell, it is going in with a sincere compliment in a very relaxed manner, and transitioning to rapport almost immediately.

Opener:

Guy: Hey, I saw you across the road, and I had to tell you, you look incredibly cute! Gal: Thank you!

Now, you can pretty much assume attraction, because you can be pretty damn sure that very few guys have the balls to be that direct. So you move into rapport. One thing you DO NOT want to talk about (at least initially) is where she is going or what she is doing (credit Alchemist) because it reminds her of her present reality. Instead, you want to pull her into YOUR reality.

Guy: It’s such a beautiful day outside. You know what I love about SF? Being able to look up and see bright blue skies and feel the sun on your face. What do you like about SF? Gal: Yeah, I love the weather here. blah blah blah

At this point, she isn’t thinking of the clothes she was buying, or where she was going, or what she about to do. You’ve pulled her into thinking about the moment and the beauty of the SF spring.

Next, you want to build an emotional connection with her. So you find out where she’s from, and what are you passionate about. You also want to open yourself and volunteer information. Don’t wait for her to ask you stuff. Tell her about you. Remember, the man leads.

Simple topics to talk about:

where are you from and why did you decide to move here? (my default)
what are you really passionate about?
if you didn’t have to worry about money, what would you do?
what’s the coolest thing that has happened to you in the last day/month/year

For each topic, you want to go DEEP about what makes her tick. You want to share yourself, you want her to get to know you. Here’s an example from one of my recent sets:

Guy: So, if you didn’t have to worry about money, what would you do? Gal: I’d be a nurse. Guy: Wow! My grandma was a nurse during World War 2 (true) and she told us all these stories about how she’d treat soldiers with all kinds of wounds, and the best reward she ever got was when the soldiers left the hospital and smiled at her as they walked out (I made this up). In fact, she told me about this army captain that came in with both his legs blown off, and he was so sad by the loss of his legs. She was assigned to him and blah blah blah… And one day, he was ready to leave the hospital. He came up to her in his wheelchair, held her hand, and said, “Thank you for everything. You are such an inspiration to me to continue my life. I’ll never forget you.” And right there, my grandma started crying, and she just knew that she was in the right field. etc

After you feel that you have a good emotional connection, you want to bring it back to the surface, talk about hobbies (eg what you do during the week) and food. You talk about your week because that is important info when arranging for a day2. And food is a really nice topic because errr… because I like food.

Humor… Hmm… There is some debate in the community on the use of humor during the rapport stage. Here’s my take (mostly “borrowed” from Lance). I use it sparingly. I always want to remind her that I am a cool fun guy, and what better way than to sprinkle in little bits of humor here and there. However, you have to be really careful when you use humor. You can (should?) use humor when the topic is a little lighter. But you do NOT want to make any jokes in response to anything that she shares with you that is deep. That will make her feel rejected (I’m opening up to you and you’re making a joke out of it?!). And the humor I’m talking about here isn’t the C+F ball busting sort of humor you use in the attraction phase. It’s a teasing sort of humor, like what you would do with your girlfriend.

Eg: Guy: What are you really passionate about? Gal: I like rock climbing. Guy: Cool. You look like the kinda girl who likes to do it without protection. wink

Take it into deep rapport. Bring it back to the surface and do wide rapport. Sprinkle in some humor when appropriate. Repeat.

Next, you want to arrange a day2. You did talk about logistics right? If so, the day2 close should flow fairly easily. You’ve done your required reading, so you already know how to set up a solid day2. Erm… you DID do the reading right?After getting the day2 close, you want to KEEP TALKING TO HER for another 5-10 minutes. You do not want to be the guy who gets her number and immediately leaves (credit Shanghai). If you do that, she will feel that you only wanted to talk to her to get her number, and she will feel like just another entry in your phonebook.

Finally, eject… Eject in a classy manner. “It was great meeting you, and I’m glad we had this conversation”. Give her a hug. Give her a kiss (if possible). Then leave. Congratulations! You’ve just had a wonderful 15-30 minute conversation!

Positive

Retrospect on Rapport

2006-04-19T01:10:00.000-05:00

First post. Awesome. So yeah, moreso than for anyone out there reading this, but I'm gonna use this as a medium for me to remind MYSELF of things I should keep in mind, or so I can look back at how I thought about things at a certain point in time, or to just put it out there so I don't think about it anymore. My mind races a lot. This will be good for clearing my head.

No Enemies
I was just thinking tonight about how over the past several years, I've become that guy who has no enemies. Everyone enjoys having me around in one way or another. Simply put, I've always been that "cool guy." Then come the days of doing technology sales for Office Depot and success in the network marketing arena, and I feel that among other things, these two experiences helped me a lot when it comes to field work. I learned to relate with my customers and associates on deeper levels.

If you've ever worked in retail and sales, you may know what I'm talking about when find yourself in a position where the customer starts telling you their life stories, and you just KNOW that if you ask another question, it could add 20 minutes to the interaction, yet you're compelled to ask it anyway. And alas, 20 more minutes wasted on one customer, buying or not. You could've used that time to work on or "game" other customers and either opened or made more sales in less time.

The Tree of Life
Now when it comes to relating and rapport, I'm reminded of the model of a tree's roots (in the future, I will be referencing trees and other spiritual and metaphorical symbols). Notice how a tree has a lot of individual roots, some shallow, some deep, but all those combined, they keep that tree standing solid and strong? Well this should set up the foundation of setting up reliable relations with women (however long or short). Your goal to find those deep roots. Get DEEPLY ROOTED. You only need like maybe 3-5 of these to REALLY form a connection.

Keep It Simple, Stupid
Ask very simple questions like: What kind of music do you like? Are you into jazz? What's your favorite movie? Do you like to travel? What's your favorite band? Ask a lot of these (no more than two in a row, relevant to the topic. No probing. No interview. No "20 questions"), and with each one, make a thread. Exchange stories. TRULY LISTEN to what the other person has to say so that you can find key words that you can use expand the thread in another direction. These are tangents, really. Don't worry about transitions. You can either go, "Anyway, blah blah blah," or just say, "Oh HEY. Have you ever..." like it was off the top of your head. Just let it flow.

So if she's not biting onto this one topic you introduced, try something else until she does (again, no probing). Ask her things that YOU are into. This way, you effectively QUALIFY her to be the kind of girl you're looking for. It's your screening process. Make sure they're questions that you can back up with STORIES, and let her exchange stories with you (you DO have a lifestyle that allows you to ask such questions, don't you? Be congruent.). This is how the interaction will go deep. Going deeper and deeper on at least 3/10 of the topics you cleverly and smoothly introduced (well timed of course), will insure that she remembers you and answers your call the next day, or calls you back.

You already know this!
You can apply these ideas in ANY interaction you have with another person. Looking back, notice that this is how you created lasting friendships and relationships in the past. You guys just kinda "hit it off" and connected on so many levels. Remember, this is just a format for a very NORMAL conversation. In fact, for anyone eavesdropping, it may seem like the same ol' boring stuff that EVERYONE talks about. Well, it may start out that way, but YOU are gonna do it better and steer it in a better direction than anyone else who's tried to run this past her and gotten nowhere. As long as it's in your style, and you're congruent with it, you'll be good. Now that you know the simple mechanics of it, go out and use it! Practice. Calibrate. Have fun!

Eww. This started to sound like some serious, formal newsletter thingie. This part of me is SO 2004! we'll change that in the near future. later peoples.

Pastiche